Steve Grand doesn’t have a record label, so he spent $7,000 of his own money to produce a music video, put it on YouTube, and within one week his gay-themed country song, All-American Boy, has over 600,000 views, and now is being covered by all the media.
The song – which you can download here – is about a topic probably every gay person can fully appreciate: the unrequited love of someone you think just might be gay, but isn’t. And they become your best buddy, and have not a clue. Or do they?
It’s a good song, and I say that as someone who isn’t terribly into country.
And you have to love the top-rated comment on YouTube, which is known for its insanely nasty commenters:
The video is below, but first here’s what Steve wrote about the song on his YouTube page:
July 2, 2013
I fought with who I was for most of my life. In every way a young person can fight with himself.
But starting today, I’m laying it out there. I’m done playing it safe.
I’m fortunate to have smart friends who believe in me, but I don’t have a manager or a label or any sort of funding other than the money I make playing piano downtown at The Joynt, and also, ironically to some, in the churches on Sunday morning.
As far as the ascetic achievements of the video… lets just say I was lucky to have a good friend introduce me to the best team I could have asked for… who held on to the roller coaster that was this project and dealt with all my intensity and craziness as the true professionals they are.
I wrote the song during a drunken piano jam session at a party. I recorded the vocals in my parents’ basement and worked with my friend Max Steger to record and mix the rest of the instruments.
I feel like most music industry people wouldn’t like the idea of me “pigeonholing” myself by telling this story as I have. But I don’t believe the world sees change until it sees honesty.
So I went in on my own.
I went all in. I’m nervous/excited/horrified/anxious about the effect that all of the choices I am making (and have made throughout my journey of discovering myself as a man and as an artist) will have on my future. But then I remind myself that I never really had a choice. This is the story I’ve been aching to tell my most of my life… the universal story of longing to be loved…it is what I hold dearest to me.
BUT my story would never have seen the light of day were it not for the people I have listed above, many of whom asked for nothing in return. I know my passion and intensity for this project were a lot to deal with (that might be the understatement of the year.. ;)) Thank you for doing your best to help me keep my sanity… just barely. And thank you for sticking with me; for your flexibility and patience and for helping to bring my vision to life. And to mom and dad… I know you guys don’t always understand just what the hell I am trying to do, but continue to love and support me nonetheless. It means everything to me…
UPDATE: Well this is interesting – apparently the Catty Cathy brigade is already piling on Grand for being a bad gay role model.
Gay men drink too much, feel sorry for themselves, and come on to straight dudes when their girlfriends aren’t around: that’s the message from the music video of newly-minted gay country singer Steve Grand. And gay media is too busy fawning over the young stud to notice.
Maybe Grand figures that his fellow gays will be too distracted by the video’s lascivious preoccupation with his pouty lips and sculpted abs to notice that, as portrayed here, he is one false move away from some serious gay bashing….
It’s not as if Grand isn’t entitled to have a fantasy boyfriend who happens to be straight – who hasn’t? – but if the singer really wants to challenge stereotypes, why the hell is he portraying gay men as sad, predatory drunks?
Oh for the love of God, just stop. It’s a fun little video, and in fact it’s about something every single one of us, straight and gay, has experienced – the unrequited love of the “friend” that means a tad too much to us, alone with the “is he, or isn’t he” game of trying to figure out if someone is into you, or just your “buddy.” As for sad predatory drunks, again, wtf? He’s someone who’s pining for a potential love they’ll never have. And yes, there’s liquor in the video. There are cigarettes in the video too. Call the Church Lady!
What’s next? An outcry because Grand didn’t choose a more diverse straight guy to fall in love with? Get over yourself, Marys. Judging by the reception Grand is getting, it appears he did a very good thing breaking some glass ceilings here. We should be proud of him, rather than giving him the Outrage, Inc. treatment.