Gay marines in love (adorable video)

Have to hand it to the President on this one. I never thought I’d be seeing gay Marines giggling on camera about how they fell in love.

Meet Russ, a video blogger, and his boyfriend Matt. In this video, they answer reader questions about how they met, and more.

It’s simply adorable. And bizarre to imagine we’re watching gay Marines talk about how they fell in love, with no repercussions. We live in amazing times.

Russ has another video he posted of what it was like coming out to his father. He said the viewers had asked him why he did a video about coming out to his mom, but nothing about coming out to his dad? He explains, “that answer is actually really simple: because he won’t talk to me anymore.”

Russ continues:

He really only had three things to say to say to me when I came out to him.  And that was:

1. I  was dead to him.

2. He could never be more ashamed of me.

3. And that he’s moving out of the town we live in, because he doesn’t want to live in a town where everyone knows he has a f*ggot for a son.

(H/t Towleroad.)

Here’s the video of Russ talking about his bad experience coming out to his dad:


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  • cellmaker

    Russ, you can borrow my Dad. You wouldn’t be dead to him. Cheers.

  • http://adgitadiaries.com/ karmanot

    “More men should be adorable” Absolutely! But don’t vacation in Afghanistan anytime soon.

  • Sweetie

    What’s creepy is that people still buy into militarism’s macho nonsense. We are entering a robotic war phase, so testosterone-laden moronic “twist the pins into their chests” masculinity is becoming increasingly farcical. More men should be adorable. This planet would be far better off.

  • Sweetie

    Some things are simply unforgivable. Treating your child like that is one of them.

  • Sweetie

    Sure, blame the victim. No one held a gun to that guy’s head and told him to take a huge psychic dump on his kid. I suppose if the kid had killed himself it would be cold of me to resent his behavior?

    The man raised a child. He is an adult. There are no excuses for that sort of bullying idiocy. This is just like the comedian who “joked” that he would stab his son to death if he turned out gay.

  • http://adgitadiaries.com/ karmanot

    There is something creepy about all that adorable. They’re marines for god’s sake.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kim.obrien.775 Kim O’Brien

    i hope this does not sound strange , since i do not know either one of you and did not know about this story. As a mother ..i could not be more proud of the both of you . This is amazing..i had my 11 year old daughter watch this and we both cried. Thank you for your honesty ..and thank you for your service . I would be proud to have either of you as my son and son in law.

  • emjayay

    That’s exactly what I meant. My comment, which Coleman Abbott corrected for grammar, was also intended to be in casual speech form. “pretty much” for example would not appear in more formal writing. I believe there’s a sentence fragment in there as well. But many Americans speak in “ain’t got nutthin” sort of style, with verbs not agreeing with subjects or not appearing at all, words misused or used in the wrong or nonexistent form, etc. I have found that many people (I’d say most) who speak this way also write this way with often multiple errors in usage and spelling and grammar in, uh, pretty much every sentence. These guys do not do that. My comments were intended as compliments.
    I’ve watched a bunch of (yes that was casual speech) Russ’s videos. Thanks AmericaBlog for letting me know about them. I’m not young but through work I know and am in some cases friends with a lot of people of various ages including 20′s. Some are police and/or in the military. But this window on these guys is really interesting. Hardly I think representing every or even most young Marines, but their impression of the level of acceptance of guys like them (and I don’t just mean the gay angle) is pretty interesting. Every old right wing Congressperson and Family Whatever group guy should be strapped to a chair with their eyelids propped open and forced to watch them. I mean that.
    Watch in particular Russ’s home tour to get a better idea of where he’s coming from.

  • emjayay

    Why thank you John. That’s very sweet of you. (Damnit, that was totally not sarcasm.) See comment below.

  • http://adgitadiaries.com/ karmanot

    Exactly, imagine what it was like in my day when families would turn their backs on dying sons, or ‘church’ families condemning them to hell for being gay.

  • http://AMERICAblog.com/ John Aravosis

    Well, I understand where emjayay is coming from. Our stereotype of marines is hardy, brute, but not necessarily these guys. I do think that they break the stereotypical mold in a good way, even if maybe the way emjayay wrote it comes across a bit more negative than he intended. :)

  • http://AMERICAblog.com/ John Aravosis

    I want those puppies :)

  • http://AMERICAblog.com/ John Aravosis

    That’s nice it all turned out. For my poor cousin, his parents disowned him, and it’s been going on seven, maybe ten, years now. Sadly.

  • dcinsider

    Ed I think Sweetie has a viable point, although it may not apply in Russ’s case. There are some people who are beyond hope on this issue, and wasting a single breath on them is a breath you can never get back. We don’t know if Russ’s father is one of those types, though he’s a doing a very good impersonation of one.

    Let’s not assume that Sweetie is jaded and bitter, but even if he is, perhaps his experience has brought him tot hat place, and he is certainly entitled to express that advice to someone else. Sometimes, cutting off all contact IS the correct decision.

    Russ should listen tot he advice he gets from all comers, but he’ll make his own decision, as we all did. When I came out my father was supportive, but my mother was a mess. I basically told her she’d get over it, and she did. I did not play into her drama, and I treated her exactly as I did before I told her. Eventually it became a non-issue, and she treats my partner just as poorly as she treats all the in-laws in my family :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=500391626 Coleman Abbott

    Wow. What sweet, articulate (….) guys; who aren’t anything like any stereotype of marines or military in general, which is not an unearned stereotype. Nethier one spends a huge amount of time working out. Thanks.

    I thought you would like your post to be grammatically correct, since it matters so much to you :).

  • http://heimaey.us/ jim morrissey

    Pretty much correct grammar? They are speaking colloquially they are not writing.

  • http://heimaey.us/ jim morrissey

    These guys are too cute. Like in the puppy kind of way where all you can do is stare smile.

  • Brad

    Sometimes you have to face the fact that people you care about have too many of their own problems to love you. But it’s important to realize that it’s THEIR problem, and equally important to know that you can’t solve that problem for them. I am gay and no longer have a relationship with either of my parents or my brother. Their problems. Their small minds. Their hangups. Not mine. I have created my own family that means more to me than my original biological family ever did. Work toward that.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ed.geen.56 Ed Geen

    And how old are you ? It sounds like you have been around the block more than once and have had bad experiences. Seriously, that is the advice you would give to a young person who is newly out ? That is what you would say to a young person who says ” I keep hoping the phone will ring or get a text from him.” It has only been a couple months. You would have to be pretty cold hearted to give such advice. I never said “wait by the phone and put your life on hold until you get a call.” Young people have plenty of time to become jaded and bitter – don’t rush him.

  • Mike_in_the_Tundra

    Unfortunately, it is difficult t make a break with your family. When they give you no other choice, you just have to move on. My parents “disowned” me. I got the message and moved on to greener pastures. In my case, that was my husband. His family treated me as a son. A few years later, my mother contacted me. She said that she was sorry. My reply was, “That’s okay, I have another family now.” I also told her about our adoptions. Those two pieces of information worked like magic. My parents than began the reconciliation process. It was never the same, but I am glad it happened.

    I agree that some fathers are just sperm donors, but it seems that Russ and his father had at least some minimal kind of relationship. Russ seems like the type who would let bygones be bygones. Although, things will never be quite the same.

  • http://adgitadiaries.com/ karmanot

    If you live long enough you realize that you don’t have to love your parents, especially if they won’t give you a diagram to the loss self esteem buttons they installed at birth to control you.

  • Carlton

    Some “fathers” are really just sperm donors and not all much more – my parents divorced when I was a 3 and the deadbeat never took much interest in my life. I know my “father” after repeated attempts to build a relationship showed no interest when I was in my early 20′s. It hurt at the time, but I got through it just fine. What gave me power in the whole situation was that I made it clear (as an adult) the relationship was over.

    Funny..when he was dying of liver cancer, he never reached out for reconciliation.

  • Sweetie

    “That’s pretty harsh…”

    Is that some sort of bad joke? Look at what his “Dad” said. They guy deserves an ass kicking.

  • Sweetie

    “I would say to Russ to hold out hope that your Dad will come around…”

    Not me. I have a policy of not associating with fools. If they happen to be family members, oh well. We only have so much time on this planet, and wasting it on ignorant assholes is not worth it.

  • emjayay

    Wow what sweet articulate (they both talk casually using pretty much correct grammar) guys who aren’t anything like any stereotype of Marines or military in general. Which is not an unearned stereotype. Neither one even spends a huge amount of time working out. Thanks.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ed.geen.56 Ed Geen

    That’s pretty harsh to say he is NOT your dad and no loss. Russ said he was really hurt by his Dad’s reaction and that he hoped his Dad would come around. ( It has only been a couple months). Obviously to Russ it is a loss. I am not defending what his Dad said – certainly what he said to his own son is reprehensible. They would both be better off if his Dad comes around and apologizes, reconciles and accepts his son unconditionally. That may be a tall order, but with time that may happen – it has with alot of gay people initially rejected by family. I would say to Russ to hold out hope that your Dad will come around, but in the meantime don’t let it keep you from living your life to the fullest. You don’t need his approval or his acceptance to be happy. It is his issue to deal with – I can’t even imagine a man who would not be proud to have you as his son.

  • http://AMERICAblog.com/ John Aravosis

    add a few more words to that comment? ;-)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=641980071 Dieter Michaels

    If that was what your “dad” said…he is NOT your dad. Merely a sperm donor. No loss.

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