10 y.o. girl writes Obama about her two gay dads, Obama writes back

The Cute, It Burns

Apparently, a ten year old girl wrote President Obama last week to thank him for his position in favor of gay marriage (aka marriage equality).

You see, the girl, Sophia Bailey Klugh, has two dads.  But Sophia mentioned something else in her letter.  Some kids at school make fun of her because she has two days, and she says “it hurts my feelings.”  She then asks the President what she should do about it.

Little girl’s letter to the President, courtesy of Huffington Post.

Well, President Obama wrote the girl back.  It’s very cute.  HuffPo has Obama’s letter, so I’ll let you go over there to read it, but this part was great:

A good rule is to treat others the way you hope they will treat you. Remind your friends at school about this rule if they say something that hurts your feelings.

This comes on the heel of the President issuing a statement supporting the pro-gay side of four marriage ballot measures in Maine, Maryland, Washington and Minnesota.

Romney vs. Obama on Gay Rights: No Contest

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Gay dads via Shutterstock.

Mitt Romney has also spoken out about gay parents.  He doesn’t like them, doesn’t “care” about them, and doesn’t want to even give their kids birth certificates.

It’s clear that the President decided a while ago to “seize the gay” (carpe gay-um?) as part of his re-election strategy – that was clear from the Democratic Convention in early September.   Prior to the convention, the Democrats approved a marriage equality plank to their platform.  At the convention, they showed a marriage equality video, Zach Wahls spoke about his two moms, and Michelle Obama mentioned gay marriage in her keynote, in a big way.

About the Michelle Obama mention, I wrote at the time about why it’s such a big deal:

Last night, during her keynote address at the Democratic Convention, First Lady Michelle Obama, in so many words, endorsed marriage equality:

If farmers and blacksmiths could win independence from an empire…if immigrants could leave behind everything they knew for a better life on our shores…if women could be dragged to jail for seeking the vote…if a generation could defeat a depression, and define greatness for all time…if a young preacher could lift us to the mountaintop with his righteous dream…and if proud Americans can be who they are and boldly stand at the altar with who they love…then surely, surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American Dream.

Let me walk you through this. In her speech, Mrs. Obama listed six significant moments in America history:

1. The War for the Independence.

2. Mass immigration.

3. Women’s Suffrage.

4. The Depression.

5. Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream” speech.

6. DADT and Marriage Equality (I think the “be who they are” reference is DADT).

I mean, holy cow folks.

You’re Not Voting for Your Boyfriend

I get that some progressives are conflicted about what to do at the ballot box tomorrow.  And I understand their angst.  I was conflicted the first few years of the Obama administration, because the President wasn’t doing what I wanted, what he had promised, on issue that I cared about (gay civil rights). But in the end, after much cajoling, admittedly, he came through, in a big way.

Now some would say, yeah but you had to beat him up to get him to push the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and to come out in favor of marriage equality.  Yeah.  And so?  As I’ve written many a time, I didn’t vote to elect a boyfriend. I voted for Barack Obama because I wanted certain things that I knew I wouldn’t get with John McCain, and I knew I had a chance of getting them with Barack Obama.  And I got them.

It’s not about what’s in his heart.  I don’t care what’s in any politician’s heart.  That’s actually a very Republican argument, worrying about how a politician actually “feels” about you.  And it’s actually a self-loathing Republican argument, the gay Republicans use it all the time: “Sure, he wants to ban us in the US Constitution, but he HAS to do that to appease the crazies in his own party – in his heart, he really likes us!”

To his heart I say phooey.  His heart is going to enable me to marry, keep a job, and provide for my kids (had I any).  His legislative and administrative actions will.

There’s some quote I remember, from twenty years ago when I read it for the first time, about a suffragette, I think, saying something to the effect of: “I don’t want you to like me; I simply want you to take your boot off my throat.”

I don’t vote for politicians to like me.  I vote for them to advance my personal political agenda.  Yeah, it took some work, but in the end President Obama did what I wanted him to do, what I voted for him to do.  As for Mitt Romney, the number of flips flops, the number of lies, not just on gay rights, but on every issue, are now nearing Olympic record territory.

With Obama, there’s hope for something better.

With Romney, you’re not getting anything you want.  Period.

That’s why I’m voting to re-elect the President, without any qualms.

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24 Responses to “10 y.o. girl writes Obama about her two gay dads, Obama writes back”

  1. Papa Bear says:

    I only wish more people saw it that way. It reminds me of a time when I worked in an office that contained a lot of “runners”. One day I posted a notice about a 10K Run on the bulletin board. A programmer came up and asked how long I’d been running (I was overweight then, too). I said I didn’t do that. He looked gobsmacked, then blurted out: “Why in the world would you post a notice, then?”

  2. karmanot says:

     Thank you  All the issues in play here.

  3. Papa Bear says:

    Buddha protect us until then…

  4. Guest says:

    There are a lot of ax-grinders on here who think pissing in the wind accomplishes something.

  5. Papa Bear says:

     The problem seems to be “one-issue voters” from both parties. Gay/anti-gay rights, abortion/anti-abortion, corporations are people/are not, killed/hasn’t killed Medicare (yet)…  If they get what they want, then the President is good.  If they don’t, he’s bad.

    The fact that he’s busily bulking up the power of the presidency while killing innocents by the score isn’t relevant, apparently, unless one of those is your “one issue”…

  6. karmanot says:

    LOL. thanks John. On our site ( http://adgitadiaries.com/ ) we wrote: “What they didn’t tell you is that just before the filming began little Abigale’s  mommy told her that Barack Obama’s limousine ran over ‘Hello Kitty’ and Bronco buried her  in the Rose Garden.”

  7. karmanot says:

    LOL. thanks John. On our site ( http://adgitadiaries.com/ ) we wrote: “What they didn’t tell you is that just before the filming began little Abigale’s  mommy told her that Barack Obama’s limousine ran over ‘Hello Kitty’ and Bronco buried her  in the Rose Garden.”

  8. karmanot says:

     Good on you Hollywood. But, I can not wish love for Obama. The lesser of two monsters is still a monster.

  9. Skeptical Cicada says:

    I agree completely, John.

    Let me add what I think distinguished marriage equality from most other progressive concerns, including other gay-rights issues. It was simply this: Until a few months ago, the Democratic Party refused to acknowledge that our unqualified equality under the law was even the goal. That is why we quite properly rejected the calls for patience and gradualism. Think of the absurdity of it. We were being asked to be patient as our allies worked gradually to bring us to the glorious promised land of…perpetual separate-class status. The fundamental problem was never patience or gradualism, but the refusal to make equality even the eventual goal.

    It took only one sentence to end that indignity and give the calls for patience and gradualism coherence.

  10. BeccaM says:

    I noticed that, too. Anyway, it’s much appreciated. Cheers!

  11. Agree

  12. Sorry, it took days to figure out, and in the meantime, we’ve been dealing with trying to keep the site up – it actually went down last week for half a day.  

  13. Couldn’t have said it better.

  14. hollywoodstein says:

    I almost apologize for my earlier rant, but my therapist says I can’t blame it on the gin, so I won’t apologize. 
    No, I didn’t vote for a boyfriend.  I couldn’t give a hoot what was in his heart, or if he liked me.  I voted for a fierce advocate.  Didn’t get a fierce advocate.  Don’t know why I thought I would get a fierce advocate, someone may have said something about a fierce advocate in the heat of the campaign, but for whatever reason I didn’t get a fierce advocate.  It would have been nice if he was a fierce advocate, but that’s not who he is.
    So we did what we had to do, and fought, and led, and finally, reluctantly, eventually he followed.  So we built that, not him, and it wasn’t easy, but I’m proud of us and what we accomplished together. It was historic. Our lives are better for it.  America is better for it.
    So your point that what we accomplished, was at least possible under Obama, and not possible under McCain or Romney is well taken.  So that is why I voted for the bastard god love him.  And that is why I am cleaning out the van today to take the elderly, and infirm and handicapped to the polls tomorrow.  Because elections do matter.

  15. FLL says:

    The 10-year-old girl who wrote this letter is an example of the beneficial demographic effect of younger generations reaching voting age. A second beneficial effect on the Electoral College is the naturalization of Hispanics in Texas, Florida and Colorado, and also their U.S.-born children reaching voting age. Hispanics are supporting the Democratic rather than Republican ticket this year by a breathtaking two-to-one margin, coincidentally the same percentage as LGBT voters. As these demographic changes take effect, what will happen to fundamentalist Christians might be described as the Partial Rapture. In the Rapture, bible-thumping Christians experience their entire bodies being taken away and sent to heaven. In the Partial Rapture, the only thing that goes away are their BIG MOUTHS.

  16. karmanot says:

     Yea!!!! Good work John and fixers.

  17. karmanot says:

    God, will I ever be glad when this is over.

  18. BeccaM says:

    Hi John,

    As of just a very short while ago, I seem to be logged in okay. THANK YOU! The logging in temporarily as guest for every post and reply was really getting bothersome.

  19. S1AMER says:

    America’s future is secure, so long as little kids are coming along with the goodness of little Sophia.

  20. Hallelujah, I’m back.  I couldn’t log in here for a week.  Sorry about that.  We had to use some pretty advanced caching to keep the site up when traffic soared this week, and it locked me and a number of you out of Disqus. My tech consultant finally figured out today how to fix it, assuming it is fixed.  Let me know if you were locked out and still can get in, and if you still can’t, then email me.  Thanks,

  21. caphillprof says:

    As a conflicted progressive, I have already held my nose and voted for Obama as the lesser of two evils.  Progressives will never have a candidate to vote for unless we all work very hard BETWEEN elections.

  22. Guest says:

    Yes.  And Yes.  And Yes.

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