Sometimes we’re too sensitive. But I’m not buying that this is one of those times. The best homophobes skirt the line expertly. It doesn’t change that what they’re doing is wrong. I wrote in my other post, linked above, that perhaps it’s subtle, the homophobia surrounding mocking men who wear pink or men react positively to homoerotic ad. One of our readers, Soullite, had a great response in the comments:
I don’t think it’s that subtle, really. Back in my more homophobic tween years, me and most of my friends would have decked anyone who said this to us [meaning, if they made fun of them for wearing pink etc], because we’d know damn well what they were saying. If a 12 year old would know it, I’m not buying that a grown man wouldn’t know that this guy is basically pointing and screaming ‘fag!’
I think the big problem here is we let grown ups hide behind a smile and a fake-ass attitude of ‘what, me?’ We all pretend not to notice what’s really going on out of some misguided politeness or a fear of calling these bastards out. But really, this sh*t isn’t too subtle and there ain’t a man over 10 who doesn’t know what’s going on here.